I don’t really like change.
From a new job to moving furniture around in the living room, the idea of change makes me angsty, itchy and irritable. Yes, itchy.
My work friends knew this and helped to make the change from non-Mom to Mom a smooth one. During my pregnancy, a friend at work let me borrow a DVD called Happiest Baby on the Block, where a hippy doctor talked about the five ways to soothe a crying newborn: by swaddling, letting the baby suck on a pacifier, swinging the baby, holding him on his side and making a SHHHH noise (in a calm, soothing way and not an oh-my-God-will-you-please-shut-up kind of way). I was like, OK, right, let me get right on all this baby whispering bull right away. OR NOT.
Turns out, it totally works.
Sometimes my baby’s brain just goes haywire. He’s all, “I’m tired! I’m awake! I’m hot AND cold and hungry AND full AT THE SAME TIME! Life is so hard and tragic, please someone come rescue me because she’s starving me. to. DEATH.” and I’m all, “It’s 3 am and I hardly think so.” And that’s when I pull from my magic baby whisperer bag of tricks the most amazing creation ever. The swaddle blanket. It’s a blanket that wraps around and velcros his arms firmly against his sides. Although sometimes the spirit of Houdini overcomes him and he wiggles out of it, the blanket normally keeps him snug as a bug. He will fall asleep literally 5 minutes after I wrap him. It’s simply amazing.
Basically, my baby hates change, too. He was tucked safe and sound in the most perfect environment EVER, and I forced him out into….this place, where food isn’t simply pumped into his stomach and sometimes it gets cold. He’s in a constant state of change: hungry to full, in someone’s arms to in a crib, dry diaper to wet diaper.
All he needs is that swaddle and he forgets all about it.
A few weeks ago during a team meeting, my boss announced one of our fellow team members was moving to a new department. He’s a great guy and we were shocked he was planning to leave. I freaked.
My mind went haywire, just like my baby’s does daily.As I was having this little panic attack, the DVD from months ago popped back into my mind.
My boss calmed us down, SHHed us, wrapped us in a virtual swaddle blanket and pushed the paci right into our mouths. The other team member and I eventually stepped back from the ledge and could think calmly again, but I realized two things: I need to create a grown-up sized velcro swaddle blanket and I can relate to my baby way more than I thought.
What are your go-to calming techniques (for yourself, of course)(also for your baby if you’d like to share)?
Originally posted at Studio30Plus!